Advice from mum about choosing a spouse

I would like to share with you the advice my mum gave for choosing a spouse. 

I would like to share a true story with you about my step father. He was my Dad’s closest friend. My Dad died when my mum was in her 30s. At the time when my Dad died my stepfather was also in his 30s and had never had a girlfriend. He told my mum he had asked a few women out but they had all refused him. 

He was not the world’s best looking man but comparing him with other men in his 30s suddenly he was not so bad looking. Thus I think at various ages we can look better or worse. So my mum was lucky because no one had wanted this man and actually he had aged well – now not so bad looking.

Having said that I think sometimes kindness adds a beautiful colour and he is quite a kind man (at least towards my mum). 

Plus my mum taught me that when,deciding whether you like a person you should be like a blind person because qualities are more important.

Actually when it comes to living with someone I think kindness and smelling good are more important. Looks can grow on you too. Blessings.