Be irresistible. 10 winning ways
1. YOUR BEAUTYUse your Fitnah (beauty and overtures of allurement) to win your husband’s heart. All women have the ornaments that Allah blessed them with. Use what beauty you have to win the heart of your husband. At home dress up, wear the colurs and clothes he likes to see you in. Use makeup, perfume, jewellery – in short – do what it takes to be attractive to him. Earrings, bracelets and pretty dresses – wear the best for him.
2. HIS MOODS
Be sensitive to his moods, feelings and needs. Welcome him when he comes home and make him feel good to be at home. Don’t start complaining or burdening him with problems as soon as he comes home. Imagine your husband coming home to a clean house, an exquisitlely dressed wife, a dinner prepared with care, children clean and sweet smelling, a clean bedroom – what would this do to his love for you? Now imagine what the opposite does to him!
3. Be like the women of jannah (paradise)
Review the characteristics of the Hoor Al-Ayn (women of Jannah) and try to be like them. Imitate them. The Qur’an and Sunnah (the way of life for Muslims) describe the women of Jannah as having certain characteristics. For example, the silk they wear, their large dark eyes, their singing to their husband. Wear silk for your husband, use kohl around your eyes, and sing to your husband (or whisper sweet words).
4. Togetherness
Do things together or at least spend some time of the day to give him your undivided attention. Sincerely appreciate him, show interest in his day, his activities, his thoughts and his opinions. Make suggestions, give advice and comfort him. Spend your husband’s money carefully and try to keep him informed of where his money is being spent. Don’t spend large amounts of his money without his permission. Show care and concern for his relatives as hit is a sure way of securing a place in his heart. Never object when he spends money on them – as this is a source of abundnance and increase in life span.
5. THE FUN SIDE OF LIFE
Joke and play games with your husband. A man’s secret – they seek women who are light-hearted and have a good sense of humour. As Rasulullah SAW told Jabir to marry someone who would make him laugh and he would make her laugh. Be cheerful and humorous, smile often, don’t feel shy to be affectionate with your husband and make him feel really happy to be around you. Express your love frequently and creatively, rather than waiting for him to do so first.
Joke and play games with your husband. A man’s secret – they seek women who are light-hearted and have a good sense of humour. As Rasulullah SAW told Jabir to marry someone who would make him laugh and he would make her laugh. Be cheerful and humorous, smile often, don’t feel shy to be affectionate with your husband and make him feel really happy to be around you. Express your love frequently and creatively, rather than waiting for him to do so first.
6. GRATEFULNESS
Be grateful to your husband. It’s a tough world and your husband workse hard to provide for you, so don’t compare him to other men unless it is a favourable comment. Thank your husband continually for the nice things he does. Let him know you appreciate his efforts, not only by words but also actions.
7. YOUR MOODS
Control your moods as much as possible. Don’t fly into a rage when you have a difference of opinion or he criticizes you. Remain calm, control your tongue and don’t challenge your husband’s authority at that time. Use your wisdom, tact and powers of persuation later to try to explain your point of view. Belive the best about him and not the worst. Be forgiving and accept apologies graciously rather than holding grudges and bringing up the mistakes of the past. An argument is like a fire in the house. Extingush it with a simple I am sorry even if it is not your fault. When you fight back – you are adding wood to the fire. What how sweetly an argument ends when you just say sincerely – Look, I’m sorry. Let’s be friends.
8. PLEASURING YOUR HUSBAND
Always seek to please your husband for he is the key to jannah (paradise). Rasuhullah SAW taught that any woman who dies in a state where her husband is pleased with her, shall enter jannah. Thus please him. Simple things like serving him the food he likes and eating together fosters companionship.
9. LISTEN AND OBEY
Obeying yoru husband is fard (obligatory). Your husband is the head of the family and as long as obedience to him does not involve any sin, it is your duty to obey him. Show respect to your husband by not revealing to others your private and confidential issues, or by complaining about him or discussing marital problems with those who cannot help you.
Obeying yoru husband is fard (obligatory). Your husband is the head of the family and as long as obedience to him does not involve any sin, it is your duty to obey him. Show respect to your husband by not revealing to others your private and confidential issues, or by complaining about him or discussing marital problems with those who cannot help you.
10. DUA (Prayers)
Pray to Allah SWT to make your marriage and relationship successful. Ask Allah SWT for the blessing of having a successful marriage that begins in this dunya (this world) and continues on by the mercy of Allah SWT into jannah (paradise). May Allah SWT give us the favour of changing what we can change (like ourselves), patience with what we cannot change (like our spouse), and the wisdom to understand the difference. Whatever truth is in it is from Allah and His Messenger, and whatever mistakes are from the shaytaan and myself; And Allah and His Messenger are absolved from it.
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- Ask Allah SWT for the blessing of having a successful marriage that begins in this dunya (this world) and continues on by the mercy of Allah SWT into jannah (paradise).
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