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Saturday, May 12, 2012
Love and hurt go hand in hand but that should not stop us loving. Two ways to approach love
25 years of happy marriage
THE GREAT QUESTION
USE THIS WISE COUNSEL FOR YOUR SITUATION TOO
REALIZATION
THE LESSON OF THESE LIVES AND STORIES
LOOK UPON LOVE IN THIS WAY
Monday, May 7, 2012
10 ways to be the best speaker
1. TIP 1
If you really want to improve your speaking you need to think of speaking as a skill. Speak or record yourself saying the answer and then write it down. We speak and write differently, and it is a mistake to train yourself to speak in the same way as you write. If you record yourself you will be able to consider whether you said enough. In parts 1 and 3 of the IELTS test you need to aim for two or three sentences per answer.
Speaking should still be organized. There should be a structure to the answer. You need to use organization language such as Firstly, XXXXX. Secondly, XXXXX Lastly, XXX
Consider whether you speak too slowly or too rapidly? In Part 2 of the Speaking Module, a native speaker could speak about 250 words in two minutes. If you are speaking for less than 200 words, you may be on the slow side.
2. TIP 2 FOR PART 2. Part 2 of the speaking module is about speaking non-stop for about 2 minutes. Practice Part 2 in your own language first. Part 2 is also known as the long turn. Can you speak well in your own language for two minutes – for some people that is difficult too. You need to be able to speak non-stop for two minutes. Structure language is key for Part 2.
3. BREAK DOWN PART 2 into bite-sized chunksIn Part 2 you are given a card with a topic. Usually there are four points, so you should divide the talk into the four parts in the question. If you speak for about 30 seconds for each part – then you have got your 2 minutes.
4. See pictures when you are speaking.
Find a picture about an IELTS topic and describe what you see. In Part I of the IELTS exam you may be asked to talk about your life and your home town. If you have gone through lots of your own pictures you will have done some great preparation for the IELTS exam. When you are taking the exam remember these pictures.
5. TIP 5 – practice reading and speaking together.After reading a passage, summarize what you have read. Doing this improves thinking in English and articulation – how you put your English together.
6. Tip 6 – Memory development.
Many the speaking questions are about you and your life. Before the test you should refresh your memory concerning your past. Get out all the photographs you have and remember the important events of your life. Go over in your mind all the memories you have of events, people and places. Speak about all your personal memories.
Think of the helpful people in your life – your teachers, your relatives. Think about when you met them and how long you have known then. Think about why they are important and what makes them interesting. How did you benefit from them. Remember all the things you did together. Think of the activities and the conversations.
Think of the important events in your life. What happened – when, where, who, what. Who were the people you were with at that time.
Think of all the places you have been to in your home country and elsewhere. Think of the place and how you got there? Who did you go with. What did you do and how did you feel.
Think of all the things you own. How long have you owned each item? Was it a gift? Did you buy it – how did you get that money? What is the sentimental value?
7. TIP 7 –
If you don’t know or are not sure then say so. This is a test of English and there may be some questions where you really don’t know or don’t have that experience. Then say so. Of course, explain why you don’t know or are not sure.
8. Tip 8 – mirror, mirror on the wall
Speak in front of a mirror. Use the mirror to help you make better eye contact. Eye contact is considered to be important.
9. TIP 9.
Write questions. Yes you think up some questions. The speaking module is all about thinking, and thinking up and answering your own questions will make you more aware of the Q and A process.
10. TIP 10 – practice higher standards.
Practice speaking for at least 3 to 4 minutes. Then repeat but do it in two minutes and aim for a more compact answer compared to the first one.
Friday, May 4, 2012
Be irresistible! 10 ways to be the best wife ever! (Muslim style)
Be irresistible. 10 winning ways
1. YOUR BEAUTYUse your Fitnah (beauty and overtures of allurement) to win your husband’s heart. All women have the ornaments that Allah blessed them with. Use what beauty you have to win the heart of your husband. At home dress up, wear the colurs and clothes he likes to see you in. Use makeup, perfume, jewellery – in short – do what it takes to be attractive to him. Earrings, bracelets and pretty dresses – wear the best for him.
2. HIS MOODS
Be sensitive to his moods, feelings and needs. Welcome him when he comes home and make him feel good to be at home. Don’t start complaining or burdening him with problems as soon as he comes home. Imagine your husband coming home to a clean house, an exquisitlely dressed wife, a dinner prepared with care, children clean and sweet smelling, a clean bedroom – what would this do to his love for you? Now imagine what the opposite does to him!
3. Be like the women of jannah (paradise)
Review the characteristics of the Hoor Al-Ayn (women of Jannah) and try to be like them. Imitate them. The Qur’an and Sunnah (the way of life for Muslims) describe the women of Jannah as having certain characteristics. For example, the silk they wear, their large dark eyes, their singing to their husband. Wear silk for your husband, use kohl around your eyes, and sing to your husband (or whisper sweet words).
4. Togetherness
Do things together or at least spend some time of the day to give him your undivided attention. Sincerely appreciate him, show interest in his day, his activities, his thoughts and his opinions. Make suggestions, give advice and comfort him. Spend your husband’s money carefully and try to keep him informed of where his money is being spent. Don’t spend large amounts of his money without his permission. Show care and concern for his relatives as hit is a sure way of securing a place in his heart. Never object when he spends money on them – as this is a source of abundnance and increase in life span.
5. THE FUN SIDE OF LIFE
Joke and play games with your husband. A man’s secret – they seek women who are light-hearted and have a good sense of humour. As Rasulullah SAW told Jabir to marry someone who would make him laugh and he would make her laugh. Be cheerful and humorous, smile often, don’t feel shy to be affectionate with your husband and make him feel really happy to be around you. Express your love frequently and creatively, rather than waiting for him to do so first.
Joke and play games with your husband. A man’s secret – they seek women who are light-hearted and have a good sense of humour. As Rasulullah SAW told Jabir to marry someone who would make him laugh and he would make her laugh. Be cheerful and humorous, smile often, don’t feel shy to be affectionate with your husband and make him feel really happy to be around you. Express your love frequently and creatively, rather than waiting for him to do so first.
6. GRATEFULNESS
Be grateful to your husband. It’s a tough world and your husband workse hard to provide for you, so don’t compare him to other men unless it is a favourable comment. Thank your husband continually for the nice things he does. Let him know you appreciate his efforts, not only by words but also actions.
7. YOUR MOODS
Control your moods as much as possible. Don’t fly into a rage when you have a difference of opinion or he criticizes you. Remain calm, control your tongue and don’t challenge your husband’s authority at that time. Use your wisdom, tact and powers of persuation later to try to explain your point of view. Belive the best about him and not the worst. Be forgiving and accept apologies graciously rather than holding grudges and bringing up the mistakes of the past. An argument is like a fire in the house. Extingush it with a simple I am sorry even if it is not your fault. When you fight back – you are adding wood to the fire. What how sweetly an argument ends when you just say sincerely – Look, I’m sorry. Let’s be friends.
8. PLEASURING YOUR HUSBAND
Always seek to please your husband for he is the key to jannah (paradise). Rasuhullah SAW taught that any woman who dies in a state where her husband is pleased with her, shall enter jannah. Thus please him. Simple things like serving him the food he likes and eating together fosters companionship.
9. LISTEN AND OBEY
Obeying yoru husband is fard (obligatory). Your husband is the head of the family and as long as obedience to him does not involve any sin, it is your duty to obey him. Show respect to your husband by not revealing to others your private and confidential issues, or by complaining about him or discussing marital problems with those who cannot help you.
Obeying yoru husband is fard (obligatory). Your husband is the head of the family and as long as obedience to him does not involve any sin, it is your duty to obey him. Show respect to your husband by not revealing to others your private and confidential issues, or by complaining about him or discussing marital problems with those who cannot help you.
10. DUA (Prayers)
Pray to Allah SWT to make your marriage and relationship successful. Ask Allah SWT for the blessing of having a successful marriage that begins in this dunya (this world) and continues on by the mercy of Allah SWT into jannah (paradise). May Allah SWT give us the favour of changing what we can change (like ourselves), patience with what we cannot change (like our spouse), and the wisdom to understand the difference. Whatever truth is in it is from Allah and His Messenger, and whatever mistakes are from the shaytaan and myself; And Allah and His Messenger are absolved from it.
Text credit: http://www.islamicthinking.info/post/4014699764/10-tips-on-how-to-be-a-successful-wife
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Tuesday, May 1, 2012
Love Story – Experience of love
MARVELOUS MYSTERY OF LOVE
For a long time I have been dwelled in understanding this mystery.
FAHM O SHAOOR
Really love is beyond all the so-called fahm o shaoor. Fahm o shaoor means the realizing of wiseness in Urdu. It means the realization of wiseness or in this case a greater realization about love. Fahm o Shaoor means the way of understanding something.
LOVE IS …
Love is so indescribable. It's a feeling that you've come home. It's this thing called love!
LOVING LARGE
It's bigger than us, isn't it?
TWO BECOME ONE – I BECOMES YOU
There comes a point (may be in everyone of us Life) when "I" vanishes totally. When all you think is in terms of "You". Yes it’s continuous "Giving".
TRANSFORMATION
Love is the strongest and most fulfilling emotion possible. It lets you share your goals, your desires, your experiences. It lets you share your Life with Someone. It lets you Be Yourself with someone who will always Support you. It lets you speak your innermost feelings to someone who Understands you. It lets you feel tenderness and warmth - a wholeness that avoids Loneliness.
UTTER COMPLETENESS
Love lets you feel Complete. Wow what an ideal paradise ♥ :)
VALUABLE VALUES
Values do play an important role in love too. When we live in a society we are bound with some norms and values which definitely determine our mode of action. Love with Respect and Keeping your integrity at the highest height have an impact.
Values do play an important role in love too. When we live in a society we are bound with some norms and values which definitely determine our mode of action. Love with Respect and Keeping your integrity at the highest height have an impact.
LIVING LOVE
Everyone wants to spend life time with ONE they love, but there comes some point when may be you are not able to spend the life with the one you love or may be s/he is already in a committed relationship, then all you can do is offer your best possible [wishes, blessings, love] but never drag them to cut their knots with their dear ones or responsibilities.
DANGEROUS LIAISONS
Don’t snatch happiness of others. Just give them freedom. As you only lose whatever you cling to.
NO SIDES
In response to the concept of one-sided love - Love is just Love, not one two three sided but If you start to feel rejected, devalued and unfulfilled then it’s all about perspectives.
HUGGING CACTUS
Loving someone who doesn’t love you back is like hugging a cactus. The tighter you hold on, the more it’s going to hurt.
POSSESSION
Again comes the thing of Possessing or holding. The solution is Freedom.True Love is the Ultimate Display and Test of both Detachment and Bonding, Strength and Vulnerability, Closeness and Letting Go and in that Each are able to step into the Fullness of who they are.
DO YOU WANT LOVE?
And in the end Iif you want Love, Offer Love without all plans and Conditions.
NO TESTS PERIOD
Never Test your beloved as it’s Insult of Love.
NOT ALL CAN TRULY LOVE
Love is never Enough and only Some blessed hearts can offer Love, Respect and Giving.
EGOLESS
Loving heart doesn’t have any Ego. As when you keep on feeding this so-called EGO, you have less Love to offer.
BLESSING
May all of you and yours find this mystery to the ultimate joy. May you never find any conflict when you come face to face with Love. Aameen.
P.S
I am sure I can write million more words and Yet I will find all not enough, so Let the Love remains as it is. Who are me, you and We to dive into this Ocean when we don’t have enough skills for swimming in this "Aag Ka Darya" :) LoL
I am sure I can write million more words and Yet I will find all not enough, so Let the Love remains as it is. Who are me, you and We to dive into this Ocean when we don’t have enough skills for swimming in this "Aag Ka Darya" :) LoL
So Here a Cheers to all the crazyyyy ONES :) ♥ :)
PPS
Aag Ka Darya – means river of fire, oceans of fire. In other words the ups and downs of life, the ebbs and flows, the highs and low – the unruly nature of life with all its vicissitudes.
Monday, April 23, 2012
Personal and business prowess just got better with lists. Key lists that work the magic
Improve your personal and business life with the right lists - 9 ways
CONNECT WITH POSITIVE POSSIBILITIES
1. 10 IMPROVEMENTS. Make a list of at least ten improvements you could make. Consider health and fitness, career, home, business, family, hobbies, education and training. Come up with at least 10 or more –things that would improve your life in some way. Putting them in writing makes them more real. Treat this as blueprint of your plans. When you need extra oomph – get your list out and count positive possibilities.
1. 10 IMPROVEMENTS. Make a list of at least ten improvements you could make. Consider health and fitness, career, home, business, family, hobbies, education and training. Come up with at least 10 or more –things that would improve your life in some way. Putting them in writing makes them more real. Treat this as blueprint of your plans. When you need extra oomph – get your list out and count positive possibilities.
GET IT WRITTEN DOWN
2. EPIPHANY MOMENTS: When you have an epiphany – a flash of genius that
bubbles in your mind – but if you don’t write it down it may flee away. Have a
note book handy and put it into written form, otherwise it may disappear.
It is really important to keep a written record of
significant thoughts and ideas. A written record of important thoughts and
ideas will give you a good resource for future reference and action.
LIST IT DOWN
3. To do, goals and problem lists: Things
you need to do should be listed. Goals should be listed and so should problems
and challenges. Making a list sets in motion the powerful forces of commitment
and control. Writing – whether in the form of pen or keyboard – is a solid
physical action. It is a form of action too.
IN CONTROL
4. IN THE DRIVER’S SEAT: Putting together a list of challenges, goals, or things to do also serves to put you in control. By putting your problems in writing, you assume control over them. By writing down your goals, they move from being things you desire to being things you’re bringing about.
4. IN THE DRIVER’S SEAT: Putting together a list of challenges, goals, or things to do also serves to put you in control. By putting your problems in writing, you assume control over them. By writing down your goals, they move from being things you desire to being things you’re bringing about.
5. THE
FIRST IMPORTANT STEP: What challenges do you need to overcome? What would you
like to achieve? What do you need to do?
Make a written list – this is like starting the car’s engine and the
first step to getting them done.
6. BENEFITS OF WRITTEN GOALS
More people spend far more time planning a purchase of XXXXX than planning their lives. Only if you have a clear direction can you clearly get to where you want to go. Clear, specific goals are very helpful to get what you want.
We all have an idea of what we want: money, love, accommodation or better accommodation. To empower our mind to create results, we need to get very specific. Sit down and list your dreams on paper. You should take at least 10 to 15 minutes putting in writing the things you want to have, do and be.
7. TIME LIMITS
Once you have your list – look at each item and think about how long it will take for you to achieve this goal – quickly estimate – anything from a month to 10 years even.
Write your estimate next to your goal. Goals should be divided into short term, medium term and long term. Redo the list again and put the top five goals at the top of the list. These should be the ones you are most excited about and passionate about.
8. RESOURCES LIST
Make another list of your most important resources you have that will help you achieve your goals. Strengths, skills, education, time, finances, friends – in other words the tools to help you accomplish what you want. You also need to examine the type of person you need to become to achieve your goals too. It helps to put these in writing too.
9. LISTS TO MAKE YOU FEEL IMMEDIATELY BETTERList the skills you have. Leave no
skill unmentioned. Think of all the skills you use in every area of your life. Think
of the special skills you have. Make a list of all the relationships you have,
from the people your work with, to your customers and networks, and everyone in
your family. Keep the list handy and add to it.
Sunday, April 22, 2012
Be grateful for corrupt politicians. 10 reasons why you should be grateful for them from The Science of Getting Rich by William Wattles
THE BENEFITS OF BEING GRATEFUL
1. Grateful souls are closer to God.
Get closer to God when you are grateful. The soul that is always grateful lives in closer touch with God than those who never look to God in thankful acknowledgement. The mental attitude of gratitude draws the mind into closer touch with the source from which the blessings come.
1. Grateful souls are closer to God.
Get closer to God when you are grateful. The soul that is always grateful lives in closer touch with God than those who never look to God in thankful acknowledgement. The mental attitude of gratitude draws the mind into closer touch with the source from which the blessings come.
2. The whole mind benefits from gratefulness.
Gratitude keeps you in close harmony with creative thought. Gratitude prevents you from falling into competitive thought. You might think why is competitive thought not as good as creative thought. Think about it – creative thought adds something new to the world, while competitive thought tries to take what is there. Competitive thought thinks the supply is limited.
Gratitude keeps you in close harmony with creative thought. Gratitude prevents you from falling into competitive thought. You might think why is competitive thought not as good as creative thought. Think about it – creative thought adds something new to the world, while competitive thought tries to take what is there. Competitive thought thinks the supply is limited.
THE KEY TO SUCCESS
3. There is a Law of Gratitude – and it is 100 per cent necessary to observe if you want to get the results you want. Thus the definition of success is getting the results you want to see in your life.
3. There is a Law of Gratitude – and it is 100 per cent necessary to observe if you want to get the results you want. Thus the definition of success is getting the results you want to see in your life.
THANKFUL PRAISE
4. How do we show the right gratitude? It should be in thankful praise to the Superme. Draw nearer to God and he will draw nearer to you. This is what the Bible says.
4. How do we show the right gratitude? It should be in thankful praise to the Superme. Draw nearer to God and he will draw nearer to you. This is what the Bible says.
STRONG AND CONSTANT GRATITUDE
5. Strong and constant gratitude leads on to strong and continuous movement of the things you want. Consider the gratitude attitude that Jesus took: “I thank Thee, Father, that Thou hearest me.” Gratitude keeps you connected withPo wer.
5. Strong and constant gratitude leads on to strong and continuous movement of the things you want. Consider the gratitude attitude that Jesus took: “I thank Thee, Father, that Thou hearest me.” Gratitude keeps you connected with
NOW AND IN THE FUTURE
6. Gratitude keeps you satisfied with the present and how things are plus getting more blessings in the future. It is about fixing your attention to the best and on the best that surrounds you. If you surround yourself with the best then you become the best.
6. Gratitude keeps you satisfied with the present and how things are plus getting more blessings in the future. It is about fixing your attention to the best and on the best that surrounds you. If you surround yourself with the best then you become the best.
WHAT CREATIVE PO WER
DOES
7. We all have Creative Power within us and it makes us into the image of that which we give our attention. We are a Thinking Scheme and thinking substance always takes the form of that which it thinks about.
7. We all have Creative Power within us and it makes us into the image of that which we give our attention. We are a Thinking Scheme and thinking substance always takes the form of that which it thinks about.
WHERE IS THE GRATEFUL MIND?
8. The grateful mind is constantly fixed upon the best. When you are thinking of the best, the form or character of the best materializes and you will receive the best or the best that is possible at that time.
8. The grateful mind is constantly fixed upon the best. When you are thinking of the best, the form or character of the best materializes and you will receive the best or the best that is possible at that time.
WAVES OF FAITH
9. Faith is born from gratitutde. The grtateful mind constantly expects good things and expectation becomes faith. A grateful mind expects good things. Expectation becomes faith. Every wave of grateful thanksgiving increases faith.
9. Faith is born from gratitutde. The grtateful mind constantly expects good things and expectation becomes faith. A grateful mind expects good things. Expectation becomes faith. Every wave of grateful thanksgiving increases faith.
HABIT OF GRATEFULNESS
10. Cultinvate the habit of being grateful. Give thanks continuously. Everything has contributed to where you are today so include all things in your gratitude.
10. Cultinvate the habit of being grateful. Give thanks continuously. Everything has contributed to where you are today so include all things in your gratitude.
YES YOU SHOULD BE GRATEFUL FOR CORRUPT PO LITICIANS
William Wattles says: “Do not rage against corrupt politicians. If it were not for politicians we should fall into anarchy, and your opportunity would be greatly lessened.” Wattles goes one to say: “God has worked a long time and very patiently to bring us up to where we are in industry and government, and He is going right on with His work. There is not the least doubt that He will do away with plutocrats, trust magnates, captains of industry, and politicians as soon as they can be spared. In the meantime, behold they are all very good. Remember that they are all helping to arrange the lines of transmission along which your riches will come to you, and be grateful to them all. This will bring you into harmonious relations with the good in everything, and the good in everything will move toward you.”
William Wattles says: “Do not rage against corrupt politicians. If it were not for politicians we should fall into anarchy, and your opportunity would be greatly lessened.” Wattles goes one to say: “God has worked a long time and very patiently to bring us up to where we are in industry and government, and He is going right on with His work. There is not the least doubt that He will do away with plutocrats, trust magnates, captains of industry, and politicians as soon as they can be spared. In the meantime, behold they are all very good. Remember that they are all helping to arrange the lines of transmission along which your riches will come to you, and be grateful to them all. This will bring you into harmonious relations with the good in everything, and the good in everything will move toward you.”
Source of quotes: http://www.psitek.net/pages/PsiTekSOGR8.html
Thursday, April 19, 2012
Words, language and writing by the one of the greatest innovators in the English language. 7 ways to put a zing in your writing
The greatest words and writing secrets by Virginia Woolf (Part 2)
Woolf is considered one of the greatest innovators in the English language.
1. POWER WORDS: “When I cannot see words curling like rings of smoke round me I am in darkness—I am nothing.” Virginia Woolf
Susan McKenzie: In the beginning was the word says the Hebrew Bible – words are powerful – make sure your words work for you.
2. RIGHT WRITING: “The most extraordinary thing about writing is that when you've struck the right vein, tiredness goes. It must be an effort, thinking wrong.” Virginia Woolf
Susan McKenzie: In the day of the office, in the day of the internet we are all writers – let us all study what it takes to be the greatest writer.
3. DIGESTING WORDS: “She read everything.” Virginia Woolf
Susan McKenzie: Will anyone ever say that about you. They used to say that about one of my grandmothers. When you read you are reading the writing of others. Imbibe their spirit and message in your being when you read and you will understand so much more.
AGAIN THE POWER OF WORDS: “Nothing has really happened unless it's been described [in words].” Virginia Woolf
Susan McKenzie: The Chinese have a proverb – a picture tells a 1,000 words but notice how all life is defined in words. Words define life. The beginning, the middle and the end are words. Helen Keller realized this too - that everything was defined by a word.
WE ARE ALL TEACHERS - “to teach without zest is a crime.” Virginia Woolf
Susan McKenzie: We are all teachers and you should go through life being a teacher. They may not call you a teacher but teaching should be what you do best every day. What have you taught today? If nothing, find someone and teach something – even if you have to be teacher and student all wrapped up in one.
OUR CHOICE: “I do think all good and evil comes from words. I have to tune myself into a good temper with something musical, and I run to a book as a child to its mother.” Virginia Woolf, Congenial Spirits: The Selected Letters Of Virginia Woolf
Susan McKenzie: I have never been a fan of the idea that everything in our life is a choice but we do have some power of choice and one is the company we keep. When we need inspiration, we should choose our reading matter wisely.
STYLE MATTERS: “Style is a very simple matter; it is all rhythm. Once you get that, you can't use the wrong words. … Now this is very profound, what rhythm is, and goes far deeper than any words. A sight, an emotion, creates this wave in the mind, long before it makes words to fit it.” Virginia Woolf
Susan McKenzie: Develop your own style. Style is how you present your message and add life to your words. Style is the finished product – everything put together.
Source of quotes: http://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/6765.Virginia_Woolf?page=5
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