MARRIED HEAVEN FOR MUSLIMS. 10 secrets to ensure a lifetime of blissful companionship
1. SHARED DESTINY: Each becomes the other’s lifetime companion. Now their destiny is as one. All events are now to be tackled together as a team with mutual affection and respect.
- destiny is as one - Urooj and Raza
2. CONTENTMENT AND ACCEPTANCE: While the wife should accept her husband, his home and income as her lot, and always feel that her husband is her true beloved, best friend and well-wisher, the husband should accept his wife as his partner for life and not cast a glance towards another.
3. RIGHTS: Both should concentrate on being aware of each other’s rights and strive to fulfil them. This is the prescription for a prosperous marriage and everlasting love.
4. TIME: During the first year of marriage, the couple must try and spend as much time as possible together. This is especially true for the first two months. The rationale for this is that it provides an opportunity to understand each other’s temperaments and establishes a firm foundation. This will help form the basis of a prosperous marriage.
5. MAKING TIME: Time should be set aside for spending together – thus the couple should make it a point to arrive home early and avoid the habit of socializing with friends late into the evening.
6. MAINTAINING RESPECT: Mutual respect between husband and wife should be maintained. Right from the beginning of the marriage, both should be particular in following the Deen. The secret to a good marriage is to remain devoted and steadfast to one’s Deen and spouse. Deen is the submission, following and worship by humankind for Allah.
7. EMULATING THE LIFE OF PROPHET MUHAMMAD (PBUH)
The Sunnah of Rasoolullah (Prophet Muhammad (PBUH)) is the way of life of Prophet Muhammad. His teachings in all areas including the intimate relationship should be adhered to.
8. THE WINDS OF CHANGE
Rational love comes after many years together. Both the husband and wife should pledge to each other that they will steadfastly follow the Deen. Marriage is like the weather -- sometimes cloudly and rainy, sometimes sunny - but steadfastly following the Deen enables one to go through different seasons and experiences.
9. RESPECT THE WIDER FAMILY
The husband should be sympathetic to the fact that his wife has left her family to be with him. Her sacrifice and feelings should be respected and joy should be felt by both partners at the expansion of their families. While the wife should treat her husband’s parents as her own, he should also extend affection, coutesy and respect to his new in-laws.
10. ALL PROBLEMS
No matter how trivial the problem, if it remains unresolved for more than three days, consult someone who is both knowledgeable and your sincere well-wisher.
PS MAKE TIME POSTSCRIPT
Edward became King of the UK at a time when it was unacceptable for his Queen to be a divorcee. He had to choose between the crown and the woman he loved. He said: "I have found it impossible to carry the heavy burden of responsibility and to discharge my duties as a King as I would wish to do without the help and support of the woman I love."
Learn to be a true King: How could someone say: Sorry, I had no time to talk to you! I have been busy! Lot of work to do! Make sure you know how to maintain love and marriage!
- Always in love - the former King Edward with his life partner.
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