From beautiful and fulfilling to poisonous and unbearable relationships by Tayyiba Iram

EXCEPTIONAL ESSENCE
The beauty of relationship is its nurturing and fulfilling essence.

BLESSED NURTURE
We are naturally blessed with relationships the moment we are born.

BEAUTIFUL BEVY
Parents, siblings, cousins, uncles, aunts, Grandma, Grandpa, teachers, friends and husband/wife all are precious relations offering us love, support, confidence, upliftment, encouragement, appreciation, learning and strength.

GREATEST JOURNEYS
In the Journey of Life we all have some role either big or small.

Throughout the journey of life we face many situations in various relations for our own learning and strength, for our own self awakening but we hardly pay attention. We realize who we are and where we stand in other people's lives from the relations we maintain or come across the life span.

UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
God and Parents (mostly) offer Unconditional Loving usually without any expectations whereas every other relation somehow at one or different point of time asks or seeks reciprocation (even they don’t say but this feeling deep down starts growing in them such as I have done this and You have done this). I am not placing this feeling at the negative end as it’s quite human. We are human beings on a spiritual journey in this life.

RELATIONSHIP REALITY
If this is the way relations are then the Whys and Hows reach a point that a poison keeps on spreading in the life of relations slowly over a period of time.

DIFFERENT ATTITUDE
Remember there is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference.  The little difference is Attitude. The big difference is whether it is Positive or Negative.

Things That Drain You in Relations…

1- Negative talk, Continued Negative words spoken by you or others around you.

2- Doubts, Assumptions and Anger

3- Facing Judgments or passing judgments

4- Disrespect and belittling others

5- Resentment and not opening it out, holding the pain inside

6- Lying and breaking promises

7- Lack of Appreciation in day-to-day matters

8- Lack of Patience

9- Misunderstandings and not making effort to clarify Issues

10- Blaming Attitudes

POSITIVE POWER
It’s true that when someone is surrounded by so much negativity it’s difficult to remain positive, but if you choose to act in a certain way you will definitely adopt positivity.

QUALITY JOY
Happy, healthy relationships are one of the greatest joys of life.

JUST DESERTSEach and every one of us deserves to be with somebody who makes us smile – somebody who doesn’t take us for granted – somebody who won’t hurt us. REMEMBER each one of us needs to feel loved, needed, and cared for without any discrimination. Let us start showering more love to our relations truly without any feeling of burden, desperation and superiority.

THE SECOND NAME OF LOVE – FORGIVENESS
Forgiveness is an integral part of a relationship besides love. Also, loving selflessly instead of asking something in return. Of course this is difficult – but not impossible – to achieve. At the end of the day, it’s the quality of our relationships that defines the quality of our lives.